Road of Life

 Third letter to the Chinese students
successful, confident, happy
Kai-fu Lee
 
Previously, many Chinese students and I are focusing on how to achieve good communication and excellence, and how will start to become leaders. Recently, a chat room on Sina.com, and I received many emails, I found that more Chinese students need to know not how from good to great, but how to positive from confusion, from failure to success, from inferiority to self-confidence, from melancholy to joy, from fear to optimism.
An extreme example is the February 2004 took place in Yunnan University Majiajue events. Majiajue brutally murdered his four classmates . But Ma Jiajue arrest conversation with the psychologist's opinion, he should not be an evil person, but a lost, lack of self-confidence, character enclosed children. He and many college students, eager to know how to successful, confident and happy.
my letter is for those who want to succeed but that the success of reach, but always eager to self-pity self-confidence, desire happiness but happiness of the mass of students do not know to read. hope that this letter would give the reader a new one on the definition of success, encouraging readers to understand and recognize themselves to be a happy person. also hope that this letter will help readers understand the success, confidence, happiness is a virtuous cycle: from success in can be confident and happy, where you can be happy from the self-confidence and success, from success and happiness where you can be confident.
success is to be the best American writer William
your own. Faulkner said: Do not make every effort to compete with your colleagues. you should care about is that you stronger than you now. ; success personal wealth as an indicator. But with the best results can contribute to society? Yes fame certainly happy?
true success should be diversified. success may be that you create a new wealth or technology, may be brought happiness for others you may be on the job you get the trust of others may also find the back of your self, inoffensive way of life. each person's success is unique. So, Ling Zhijun in its explore their goals and interests, efforts to pursue progress, so that my every day better than yesterday.
successful first step: take aim in life, be a proactive person
Sina chat room, When friends ask what my goal in life, I was so answered: world and help future generations, allowing them to enjoy better, more efficient, can bring them happiness and joy. gave up work in the United States and moved to China was founded Microsoft Research China, it is because I feel that the latter have a greater influence of work, and my goal in life is more consistent. In addition, when I received a letter sealed confused Student letter, write them a letter, I would think:
Majiajue also realize his goal in life, but unfortunately he was arrested after the incident realize. He said: that is the meaning of life in the end I think what is the purpose? hh things in the future, at this moment I see, I was wrong. In fact, the meaning of life is that there really is. the aim in life, he would ask yourself before anything silly, and full of love of parents, sister, how would think of this? so, he may not go astray by.
So, whether it is for the truth, In order to influence, or for pleasure, family, morality, tranquility, knowledge, innovation hh Once the goals in life, you can target, like me, under the guidance of life, decisively and make major life decisions. each person goal in life is unique. The most important thing is, you have to take the initiative to take their own life goals. But do not be rushed, not in pursuit of so-called
So, how to find your goal? many of my classmates asked me what their goals that? I can not answer, because only one person can tell what your goal in life, that person is yourself. There is only one where you can find your target, that is your heart.
I suggest you close your eyes, the first one comes in your mind the ideal record, as the answer without thinking is the most sincere. or you can also look back at your happiest, most rewarding time, the existence of certain common? they are probably the most motivating your life goal. Furthermore, you can imagine that fifteen years later, when you reach the perfect state of life, what kind of environment you will be in? what kind of work? One of the most fun thing is what? Of course, you may wish to talk about family and friends, listen to their views.
successful second step: to try new areas to explore your interests
yourself to be the best, the most important thing is to play to their full potential, pursue the most interesting and the most passionate thing . When you are interested in a certain area, you will be walking to class or taking a bath when they never forget it, you're in the area easier to be successful. Furthermore, if you have passion in this area, you may it sleepless nights, even when you think of an idea to sleep, will jump. this time, you are no longer working for success, but to
relatively speaking, not interested in doing their own things only half done, there may be nothing. Even if you rely on intelligence or talent to do it well, you definitely do not release all of the potential. Therefore, I do not agree with each students are chasing the most popular professional, I think that everyone should understand their interests, passion and ability (that is, emotional intelligence has said the potential.
Bill. Gates said: we can see his interest in software technology and passion .1977 years because the love of the software, Bill. Gates to give up mathematics. If he left school at Harvard to continue reading and become a professor of mathematics, can you imagine his potential will be suppressed to what degree? 2002, Bill. Gates, Microsoft's 25 years in leadership, but decided the CEO job to Steve Ballmer, because the only way he can participate in the work of his favorite mm as chief software architect, specializing in software technology innovation. Although the Bill. Gates was a great CEO, but when he he was named chief software architect, he was the technical direction of the company made a significant contribution to and, more importantly, he is more passion, more happiness, and which also inspired the morale of all employees.
Bill. a good friend of Gates, America's most outstanding investors, Warren. Buffett also recognized the importance of passion. When a student asked him the direction, he always would reply: . If you want me to give you advice, that this is the best advice I can give you a. not vulgar, unified fame, their fame is their vision and passion can bring. a well-known American SEM has done a survey and found that while most students want to chase fame and fortune in the admission, but alumni with the most fame in, 90% of the ideal pursuit of admission, rather than chasing fame.
I entered the university, to engage in legal or political work. a year later I found myself to it is not interested only in the middle grades. but I fell in love with computers, programming a day frantically, and soon caught the teacher, the students attention. Finally, one day sophomore year, I made a major decision: to abandon more than a year after the nation's top three in the Faculty of Law at Columbia University has cultivated itself into the credits transferred to Columbia University, an obscure computer system. I told myself, life only once, should not be wasted in the absence of joy, no sense of accomplishment in the field. at that time a friend said to me, will pay a lot of change in professional costs, but I told them that there is no passion to do a job will pay a higher price. That day, I elated spirits, I promise to myself, three university should take in each subject is the day the decision of A. If, today, I would not have in the computer industry's achievements, and I probably just a small town in the United States is neither successful nor happy to be a lawyer.
Even so, the passion of my career and my father is far compared. I have always thought his father was a stern man to see his father's favorite until last year the two students (who are now professors ), I know how much my father loved his work. his students told me: on us to spend time and money, far more than his meager income. Students found in his drawer he encouraged his two sentences: favorite.
So, how to find interest and passion? First, you must separate the interests and talents. do you have the talent to do easy achievements, but do not because they do well to think that interest you lies. To find the true interest and passion, you can ask yourself: for something, you are eager to repeat it, whether happily and successfully complete it? you have been longing for the past is not it? it can be quickly to learn it? it always makes you satisfied? you sincerely from the heart (not just from my mind) love it? you the happiest thing in life and it is not relevant? When you ask yourself, Note Do not expect your parents, social values and the influence of friends into your answer.
clear if you can answer these questions, then you are lucky, because most of the students in the university four years in exploring or remorse. If you have yet to find answers to these questions, I have only one suggestion: give yourself the opportunity to reach up to a maximum of choice. I remember I first entered the Carnegie. Mellon's doctoral program, the school has a mechanism allow students to pick the teacher. in the first month, each teacher so that the stops to attract students to do the whole body. It is because of this mechanism, I was lucky enough to meet my mentor, Professor Reddy, select the topic of my Ph.D. speech recognition. , club activities, friends, communication, e-mail and other ways to find hobbies. Only you can try to touch, you can only try to find your favorite.
Ya-Qin Zhang of my colleagues once said: people must be wise. they will not lose, because even if they succeed, they would learn lessons. Therefore, only those who dare to try, is an absolute failure. vision, not only to get lessons learned from, but also to find where their interests.
successful third step: for interest, set milestones, a step forward
find your interest, the next step to do is the development of specific milestones toward their own ideals Yibubuxiang.